Dating a man with teenagers
If the adolescent is shy about being physically demonstrative it can be uncomfortable to see the parent acting in an affectionate way with a dating partner.
If the adolescent is coming to terms with sexual feelings, it can feel awkward seeing a parent act those feelings out in an intimate relationship.
I have two teenagers: 13 (a son) and 15 (a daughter).
They both live with me, although their father lives in the next town and my son often stays with him. When should I tell my kids that I am dating, and when should I introduce them to this new person in my life?
Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.
If your date wants you to meet her son right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.
Go ice skating, take a day hike, visit the zoo or attend a sporting event.
Be cautious not to be overly excited about dating because your teens are about to get to that stage, and you want to preserve the excitement and healthy conversations about dating for them.
If the adolescent is now motivated to dress to be deliberately attractive, it can be threatening to see a parent dressing with the same intent.
If the adolescent has anxiety about safe dating, there can be worries on that score for the dating parent as well.
Come adolescence, it can feel awkward, even embarrassing, to begin dating and have a parent who is also starting to date.
If the adolescent now feels old enough to date, the parent may be supposed to be too old to date.